Cure for the Facebook generation

nadim February 13th, 2009

Man is even as steel, the essence of which is hidden: through admonition and explanation, good counsel and education, the essence will be brought to light. If, however, he be allowed to remain in his original condition, the corrosion of lusts and appetites will effectively destroy him.

~ Baha’u'llah

The article which forms the background of this blog entry is from the UK’s Sunday Times. Entitled “Cure for the Facebook generation“, the article actually has little to do with Facebook itself (I imagine the reason was purely to capture the reader’s attention). Rather, it highlights a study conducted which examines the impact of greed culture and individualism on today’s children.

Britain’s cult of individualism, greed and selfishness has so blighted children’s lives that families and pupils need basic training in love and moral responsibility, according to a landmark report on the state of childhood.

More than 35,000 people contributed to the inquiry, which recommends measures including emotional report cards for children to give a snapshot of their mental and moral state at the ages of 5, 11 and 14.

Every now and again, we come across an article that strikes a chord within us, one that has us nodding thoughtfully as our eyes slide down the screen (or newspaper if you’re old-fashioned). Not only did this article have me nodding, but it actually evoked feelings of impatient anxiety.

Here’s one way to describe the feeling:

Imagine being back in high school and your science teacher asks the class a real brainteaser, which (to your surprise) you know the answer to. You wave your arm frantically trying to catch the teacher’s attention. only for your gestures to go unnoticed. You squirm so much that you almost fall off your chair, as you watch those around you fail in their responses, until at long last the skinny finger is extended in your direction.

Further extracts from the Times article:

A Good Childhood states emphatically that society has been damaged by rampant individualism… and that this ethos needs to be replaced by a greater sense of personal responsibility and the common good.

It calls for “a radical shift away from the excessively individualistic ethos which now prevails, to an ethos where the constant question is, ‘What would we do if our aim was a world based on love?’ ”

It paints a stark picture of social breakdown. The report cites evidence that this country [Britain] has some of the worst rates of child unhappiness, poverty, family breakdown and child violence in the western world.

Two-thirds of respondents say the moral values of children have declined; other polls show people’s trust in one another has crumbled.

These results are hardly a surprise. We see the evidence all around us, yet to pinpoint exactly how it happened is far from easy. The cults of individualism and greed have certainly played a role. However one can also mention the declining influence of true religion as a positive guiding force, replaced by moral laxity, on the one hand, and fanaticism on the other. One can talk about the initiatives to remove religious instruction classes from school curricula, or the increased demands placed on parents to provide for their families. And then there’s the good old World Wide Web, which when taken to excess has it’s own pitfalls, like Facebook addiction, stunted social skills, etc.

You will probably have your own list of modern-day offenders, so enough on that topic.

Before examining the solution proposed in the article, a few words should be mentioned about the recent experience of the Baha’i community.

Baha’is have long recognized the plight faced by children the world over, children living in societies where the sense of close community has all but vanished and moral education neglected almost in it’s entirety. Aware of the dire need for a remedy, Baha’i communities worldwide have, in the past decade, put classes for the moral and spiritual development of all children — not just children of Baha’i parents — at the very top of their plans of action.

More will be said about this later on, in the meantime let’s read on…

The solution, according to the experts who wrote the report, is to emphasise love and mutual respect in education, public policy and personal life. The recommendations include “civil birth” ceremonies to foster a sense of commitment for atheist parents who do not want their children christened; more prenatal classes to educate parents about child-rearing responsibilities; promotion of team sports; and the development of a sense of wonder and inner peace.

Without delving into the points above, I would invite the reader to consider whether they fall into the realms of:

A) definite non-solution
B) partial solution
C) the only solution
D) too vague a suggestion

(For the record, my answers were mainly B and D, sprinkled with a bit of A).

Going further, it makes sense to then pose the question: is it worth making the effort to develop an educational curriculum that will encompass these partial solutions, or, as some might suggest (adopting the attitude that it’s impossible to please everyone) do we “leave it up to the parents”? But what of parents who have psychological and emotional problems of their own? Or those who feel that teaching their kids about moral virtue in the face of MTV-culture is simply an exercise in futility? Or, and this is the true story of someone I met recently, you are a mother who has to work 18 hours a day, 6 days a week, just to earn enough money for your family to survive?

The Baha’i community recognizes that these are very real problems which cannot be ignored. Moreover, it recognizes the diversity of thoughts, feelings and convictions that characterize each individual’s set of beliefs, differences which contribute to the richness of society, yet all too often become barriers to (or excuses against) a solution.

But should we accept this to be the case? Can we allow this to be the case?

Indeed, the Scriptures of the world’s major faiths share a wealth of common ground in terms of teaching us how to lead spiritual lives. More so, it seems, than leaders of religion will care to admit.

The Baha’i community places great emphasis on the moral and spiritual education of children and youth, with a focus on providing ongoing opportunities for developing a sense of world citizenship and a lifelong commitment to serve humanity.

childrenChildren are the most precious resource a community has. Like young trees, children grow and develop in whatever way they are trained and according to the influences they experience. Baha’i spiritual education for children is intended to nurture spiritually vibrant and healthy young people who will grow up without prejudice and with a positive, powerful sense that they are important to God and have a role to play in serving humanity.

(From www.bahai.us)


A remarkable movement is taking shape and gaining in momentum across thousands of neighbourhoods. It is characterized by a curriculum that teaches eternal spiritual verities while addressing challenges that are unique to the modern age. This movement is still in its early stages. Its aim is to dispel the gloomy picture painted by the Times article. For now it remains under the radar, yet within it lies the solution which independent studies, like the one described here, are crying out for.

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4 Responses to “Cure for the Facebook generation”

  1. Sholeh on 13 Feb 2009 at 8:33 am

    Wonderful post, Nadim. As more of my friends have children and start worrying about their upbringing, I have been hearing so much concern expressed from them about the moral and spiritual education of their own children, and of the all of the other children out there…I was in fact having this exact conversation today with a dear friend of mine who has a 6 year old daughter.

    Society (Western, in particular) in recent years has been set up in such a way that there is no longer a strong family/community support for parents as they start raising their children. So those parents who must work 6 days a week may not have the support system that they need. Children also may not have adults in their lives who care for their well-being other than their parents…and if their parents are not able to support them in the ways that they need (emotionally, physically, mentally, etc), those children do not have other people to look up to and emulate.

    The key, perhaps, is ensuring that there is a strong community to support the efforts of parents and educators (don’t get me started on the school systems) who want to make a difference. The movement that you are alluding to in this article is a starting point to building those communities. It remains to be seen what the end product looks like…how exciting! :-)

  2. Ana on 13 Feb 2009 at 5:10 pm

    So appreciate this article Nadim. It’s distressing to think about where this culture of rampant individualism that feeds the insistent self is leading us, and highlights the urgency with which we simply MUST turn in a different direction. Thanks for getting us thinking about this…it’s a reminder to me personally that we all have a role to play–it’s not just parents and the school teachers who influence and nurture the life of a child–so too the wider community, and we are all members of some community.

  3. nadim on 13 Feb 2009 at 6:09 pm

    “Two-thirds of respondents say the moral values of children have declined; other polls show people’s trust in one another has crumbled.”

    Nice comments friends – thanks! Part of furthering the growth of spiritual education classes, I feel, is to restore that feeling of trust in one another. You have, on the one hand, parents (like Sholeh’s friend) who are craving the sense of community that they experienced when they were younger… wishing for example that they could drop the kids off at the neighbour’s place when going on errands, and knowing that they will be cared after by uncle or aunt so-and-so, who are good people and positive role models.

    Yet for some reason (the media/fear/prejudices/etc) people are viewed with greater suspicion, intentions are called into question, we fail to trust one another, and we ourselves end up exacerbating the problem. All of which contributes to the ever-deepening sense of isolation felt by adults and children alike.

    I see everyone’s role as striving to be that centre of trust in a community, to make their presence known to their neighbours and to pull up their sleeves and get involved. And that certainly goes for me!

  4. LizKauai on 13 Feb 2009 at 9:49 pm

    Individual and group consciousnesses can be good as long as God is at the focal point.

    At the Auckland Conference, I was most impressed by the communities that gathered to sing the quotations from the Ruhi courses in memorized harmonies.

    That was contrasted by an individual who was looking for a partner to sing a prayer with her. The melody that she composed was lovely but too complex for most people to join in and sing together.

    At this point in life, I am more attracted to songs that can be sung in groups. I suppose that reflects a change in my thinking – from being leery of “mindless mobs” through wanting to be “one person who can make a difference” to being part of the collective effort to share with receptive souls the healing message of Baha’u'llah.
    Scroll down to the video on this site to enjoy some of the music done in groups.
    http://news.bahai.org/community-news/regional-conferences/auckland.html

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